You, my dear, are a sight to behold. If everybody else knew how much you give, how much you love, how beautiful your ideas and intentions are…they’d be flabbergasted. And you should be, too. Step back for a second, and take it all in.
A creature like you deserves luxury and ease. A nourishing launchpad from which to start each day, and come home to each night.
You deserve to be surrounded by order and beauty.
You deserve to sit upon on an impeccable throne like the goddess you are (and when I say “throne”, I sometimes mean “toilet”).
You deserve to slip under fresh, soft sheets and a fluffy blanket when you’re cold and tired.
You deserve to pluck healthful, vibrant ingredients from a sparkling clean fridge.
You deserve to find a ready-to-heat-and-eat dinner from your well-organized freezer.
Something that has always bothered me about the millions of cleaning, organizing and decorating tips available to us is that most of them feel like they’re piling expectations, obligations and ideals on top of an already full to-do list. Often, a blog post telling me how to clean a room from top to bottom reminds me how dirty that room is, from the dust on the ceiling fan to the cat hair in the corners of the floor. Cumulatively, they make us feel insufficient when we cross the threshold into our own homes and the comparison makes us feel that pang of not good enough. After enough times of feeling “not good enough”, you start to feel “never good enough”.
That’s the opposite of what you deserve, love.
I don’t ever want you to have “the perfect home,” or the space that looks like it came right out of a Pinterest pin. I don’t want you to have the home that’s clean enough to meet your mother-in-law’s standards. I don’t want you to keep up with what magazines and Instagram are telling you everyone else is doing.
Don’t clean your house because everybody else is doing a better job, and you need to keep up. Don’t hang art because it makes your room more Instagram-worthy.
Do all of these things if you want, but do them because you deserve it, not because you should, you have to or you’re trying to keep up.
I want you to have the home that is tailored to you, that nourishes you, suits your needs, and is chock full of reminders of the things you find beautiful. The things you find useful. The things you love.
With this in mind, what task can you cross off (or add to) your to-do list?
Say yes to the ones that feel like luxury and nourishment. Say no to the ones that feel like work.